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TTYL,
BWASB
Friday, June 19, 2009
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Some Thoughts...
I attended a purity conference a couple of months ago, and something about it struck me wrong and after thought and what other people have said, I figured out what struck me wrong…
Oh, and by-the-by, if you are easily offended, you don’t need to read any farther… my intent is not to offend, but I’m sure some of what I’m going to say, might.
The attitude at the conference and even a lot of Christian Home Schoolers – of which, I am one- is ‘If God didn’t want me married, He wouldn’t have given me the desire (to get married).’ And to tell you the truth, Hon, that’s foolishness; I realize that sounds harsh, and it kind of is, but by having the attitude ‘if God didn’t want me married, He wouldn’t have given me the desire’, you are making demands of God. You are saying “Well, you made me this way, why haven’t you given me what I want!” That is not good mind-set to have.
I believe that God has hardwired the desire to be married in to most, if not all, of us. We have a need for relationships, we are social creatures, we were meant to be around other people; it’s okay to want that relationship, there comes a point in your life, where the relationships that you have with your parents, your siblings, and even just friends are not as satisfying as they once were. Again, that is okay, but you cannot go making demands of God, it doesn’t work out well.
I think that one of the reasons God gave us the ‘Single Time’ is so that we can learn that He is sufficient; He will supply all of your needs, physical, spiritual, and whatever else you need. (oh, and I do not think that I have this down pat, I’m not trying to take a better-than- you stance on this, God is constantly smackin’ me upside the head going ‘you need to listen!’)
We were created to bring glory to God, and being single, we are in a great position to do just that. We have minimal responsibilities, and minimal expenses, and so… on the off –or maybe not so off- chance that we get called to the lower corner of Zimbabwe, it’s much easier to up and move to Southern Zimbabwe if you are single.
What I’m trying say, is don’t put your life on hold for some guy that is not even here! You make preparations for the storm, but you don’t get in the cellar till you hear the tornado sirens. (Can you tell I live in the Midwest?) By all means pray for your possible future husband, keep your self pure, learn how to be a good wife… but again don’t sit in the ‘castle’ and wait. Half the time, Prince Charming has to do some grunt work to find the Princess. Now don’t go crazy, don’t make the Prince rescue you, don’t purposely grieve your Father in heaven, and don’t grieve your parents, none of those things are good to do.
Maybe God doesn’t have a husband for you or me, it can be alright, God does have something better for us. It certainly won’t be easy, but nothing this side of eternity is. I can tell you this if don’t expect something and get it, it is so much better to be surprised than to expect something and to be heartbroken when it doesn’t happen. Trust me I know what it feels like. Marriage isn’t the end all, who knows… maybe being single is just the beginning!
Thank you for your patience, and reading through my rambling and ranting.
TTFN,
Bwasb
Oh, and by-the-by, if you are easily offended, you don’t need to read any farther… my intent is not to offend, but I’m sure some of what I’m going to say, might.
The attitude at the conference and even a lot of Christian Home Schoolers – of which, I am one- is ‘If God didn’t want me married, He wouldn’t have given me the desire (to get married).’ And to tell you the truth, Hon, that’s foolishness; I realize that sounds harsh, and it kind of is, but by having the attitude ‘if God didn’t want me married, He wouldn’t have given me the desire’, you are making demands of God. You are saying “Well, you made me this way, why haven’t you given me what I want!” That is not good mind-set to have.
I believe that God has hardwired the desire to be married in to most, if not all, of us. We have a need for relationships, we are social creatures, we were meant to be around other people; it’s okay to want that relationship, there comes a point in your life, where the relationships that you have with your parents, your siblings, and even just friends are not as satisfying as they once were. Again, that is okay, but you cannot go making demands of God, it doesn’t work out well.
I think that one of the reasons God gave us the ‘Single Time’ is so that we can learn that He is sufficient; He will supply all of your needs, physical, spiritual, and whatever else you need. (oh, and I do not think that I have this down pat, I’m not trying to take a better-than- you stance on this, God is constantly smackin’ me upside the head going ‘you need to listen!’)
We were created to bring glory to God, and being single, we are in a great position to do just that. We have minimal responsibilities, and minimal expenses, and so… on the off –or maybe not so off- chance that we get called to the lower corner of Zimbabwe, it’s much easier to up and move to Southern Zimbabwe if you are single.
What I’m trying say, is don’t put your life on hold for some guy that is not even here! You make preparations for the storm, but you don’t get in the cellar till you hear the tornado sirens. (Can you tell I live in the Midwest?) By all means pray for your possible future husband, keep your self pure, learn how to be a good wife… but again don’t sit in the ‘castle’ and wait. Half the time, Prince Charming has to do some grunt work to find the Princess. Now don’t go crazy, don’t make the Prince rescue you, don’t purposely grieve your Father in heaven, and don’t grieve your parents, none of those things are good to do.
Maybe God doesn’t have a husband for you or me, it can be alright, God does have something better for us. It certainly won’t be easy, but nothing this side of eternity is. I can tell you this if don’t expect something and get it, it is so much better to be surprised than to expect something and to be heartbroken when it doesn’t happen. Trust me I know what it feels like. Marriage isn’t the end all, who knows… maybe being single is just the beginning!
Thank you for your patience, and reading through my rambling and ranting.
TTFN,
Bwasb
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